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How many times have you abandoned an idea, project or dream
because someone made a disparaging remark or rolled their
eyes when you told them about it?

Relinquishing your dreams

All too frequently we allow others to dictate what is good,
right or possible. We allow them to steal our dreams. Notice
I use the word “allow.” No one can put you down, stomp on
your dream, or kill an idea of yours unless you allow them
to.

Consider that:

It Takes Courage

So what are your ideas? Your thoughts? Your dreams? Your
plans?

It doesn’t matter if anyone supports what you want to do.
The important thing is for YOU to believe. For YOU to ignore
the people who say you can’t do it - and DO IT ANYWAY! It
takes courage. It takes persistence. It takes believing in
the “voice inside” when no one else does. Ideas, dreams and
visions are planted within you because you have the ability
to make them happen. You’ll learn, grow, scramble, fail, and
get back up again! The important thing is to simply never
give up. The people I mentioned earlier never gave up - and
they made great things happen!

The story for this article was taken from Daily Secrets For Success. You can subscribe to these daily motivational stories by going to http://www.DailySecretsForSuccess.com

“What do you want to be?”

This is a deep question that we often ignore.

We are so busy caught up in making a living that we forget we
have the power to design a life. We forget the possibility that
at any moment we can turn everything around and become an
outrageous success in life.

Most people opt for the default choice of mediocrity.

Yet this is not a pleasant choice. Nor does it provide more
approval, control or safety than risking the idea of following
your dreams. When you fail to aspire to be anything, your life
rings hollow with the pain of feeling unfulfilled.

The main obstacle people encounter in following this line of
thought is how to set it up.

While the dreaming and the intending can come to you with a
little bit of effort to overcome your resistance, the challenge
is in how to start.

The truth is that you can be anything that you want to be–but
you do have to work at it.

The first step is to have the courage to dream.

The second step is to make an intention (even if you don’t have
a clue on how to start).

The third step is to choose a role-model. Who is already doing
what you want to do? Who is already the consummate actor, the
best-selling writer, the charismatic businessman, the internet
marketing millionaire, or the great humanitarian? Whatever you
want to be–there is someone who is already an expert at it.

The fourth step is to study all you can about that particular
person and that particular field of endeavor. You need
knowledge…lots of it…you need to enter the arena mentally at
first.

The fifth step is to emulate your role model. Adopt that
person’s habits and skills from your reading or even from your
actual relationship with that person. Do what they do to have
what they have–and when you do this, you’ll be like or better
than them.

The sixth step is to continue to study and practice. It’s one
thing to have the knowledge and to see how it is expressed in
the form of someone doing what you want to do–and it is another
to have it so deeply rooted into your subconscious mind that it
seems like second nature.

And the seventh step is to persist. Obstacles will arise.
Challenges will have to be faced. And you will have to work on
your own disbelief that something extraordinary is possible for
you; but if you persist long enough, you’ll learn from your
mistakes and become the person you really want to be, and do the
things that you really want to do, and have the things that you
really want to have.

Seize an hour today to dream your “impossible” dream. Over time,
you will realize that nothing, in fact, is impossible.

Saleem Rana is a psychotherapist in Denver, Colorado. You can
learn more ways on how to improve your life at
http://theempoweredsoul.com/enter.html. You will receive my
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How is your self-expression going? Are you able to set and keep your boundaries? Are you asking for what you want? Are you letting people know if they are meeting your needs? And where are you having difficulty carrying out your self-expression?

Better yet, why is it so important to do all this self-expression stuff?

I think you know the answer to that: If you don’t express yourself, you’ll not get what you want, need or desire in life AND you will get much of what you don’t want. Make sense??

So here are some creative ways to better express
yourself:

•Tell a story that parallels what you are expressing to someone. This works well if someone doesn’t seem to be getting what you are expressing.

•Use a metaphor. Metaphors speak to a different part of the brain and can be helpful for some people who relate better on that level.

•Demonstrate what you are expressing. This can be as simple as using your hands as examples of you and the other person. Some people need the visual stimulus.

•Draw a picture. I use a white board in my office and a flip chart for most presentations I do. You can write what you are expressing and (for some strange reason) some people get this more than the spoken word.

•Do a role reversal. Not everyone will be open to this, but if they are they can get a better understanding of the way they are coming across to you and blocking your message.

•Be the other person’s alter-ego. Stand behind them and say what you think is really going on inside them on an emotional level that may be blocking the conversation.

Do you have other methods? Shoot me an e-mail and let me know what you are doing to express yourself more powerfully.

The bottom-line is this: Not everyone “speaks the same language”. The way that you express yourself may not be the same way that others express themselves.
Some people are visual, some are auditory, some are kinesthetic, some are problem sorters, some are solution sorters…shall I go on?

The more creative and flexible YOU can be, the better the chances you’ll have of getting your message delivered, understood and respected.

So do some experimenting and let me know how it goes.

And never give up!

Ken Donaldson has been based in Tampa Bay offering counseling, coaching, and educational programs since 1987. His REALationship Coaching programs empower people to have more successful lives, businesses and relationships by building a powerful relationship with themselves first. Visit his website at http://www.REALationshipCoach.com for more information and sign-up his free e-program Illuminations and Sparks of Brilliance. Ken is also the author of the upcoming book Marry YourSelf First!